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Thoughts and Musings by Rabbi Yossi Zaklikofsky

A Parent’s Dilemma


Every parent and educator knows that their number one priority is to protect children from harm, both physical and spiritual. This is especially true in today’s world of ‘moral ambiguity’.

The question is, which way do we go? Do we do what our parents did? Do we follow professional advice or a rabbi’s advice? Our gut instinct or social media influencers?

In reality, we need to go in all directions simultaneously.

When Jacob (our forefather) was encountering his evil brother Esau after 22 years of estrangement, he knew that Esau was approaching with malicious intent. To address this grave danger, Jacob took a multi-pronged approach. He pivoted, outside of his normal ‘zone’ to assure his family’s safety.

Sometimes, we may be tempted to stick to traditional methods, those which we are accustomed to. For example: “My child needs to continue in a particular school or camp (though clearly not in his/her best interest), because doing anything else will raise eyebrows from my social circle.”

Yet, when it comes to ‘saving a life’ we must be ready to employ methods we may have never considered before. If we are to succeed with our youth we need to be open to ‘walking an unbeaten path’ with new and different approaches, not leaving any stone unturned, for the sake of a child’s well-being.

Be THAT Neighbor!


What are your neighbors like? What kind of neighbor are you?

In each community you typically find a wide variety of neighbors. From those who keep exclusively to themselves, all the way to that neighbor who bakes fresh apple pie and delivers it to your door step, just because. And of course there is the whole spectrum in between.

Jacob (our forefather) was the quintessential neighbor. As he made his way through town he would interact with his fellow citizens, sharing positive and uplifting words with them. His influence was so great that when he left his hometown, its splendor, majesty and beauty left with him.

Each of us is blessed with some positive energy, wisdom or values, that we can share with those around us. We can all learn from Jacob to be ‘that’ neighbor sharing a kind smile, an uplifting word and positivity with those around us.

Seeing the Invisible

Last week, I was fortunate to attend the international conference of Chabad Rabbis in NY.

One of the big takeaways was this:

When we could see the light in another person, and communicate that effectively, that is often what gives them the confidence to see the light in themselves, to help them achieve their goals.

This idea is most pronounced when it comes to our children.

For example: Our forefather Isaac’s primary blessings were given to his YOUNGER son Jacob. But at first he wanted to give those blessings to his OLDER son Esau. But how can that be?  Did he not see Esau’s wickedness?

The answer is, that of course he knew what his son was up to, but what he saw even DEEPER was his son’s extraordinary potential. Isaac saw the greatness that Esau was capable of.

Like Isaac, we too can train ourselves to believe in our children, seeing in them, and in everyone we engage with, what they CAN become tomorrow!

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