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Thoughts and Musings by Rabbi Yossi Zaklikofsky

Feeling like a stranger in your own home?

 

Public speaking is one of the most common fears in the world. Some surveys even suggest it’s feared more than death itself. Can you believe it? Standing in front of a crowd to speak at a funeral is, for many, scarier than being in the coffin!

I’ve always envied those rare ‘naturals’, people who seem born to command a crowd effortlessly. When I tell congregants that I still get nervous before delivering a sermon, they’re often surprised. While I’ve developed the skill and gained experience over time, the jitters remain, even if they’re not obvious to the audience.

This dynamic, acquired versus natural, made me think of our relationship with Judaism as well.

For some, Judaism might feel like an acquired identity or something they dabble in from time to time. Attending services a few times a year or celebrating the major holidays can certainly be meaningful, but it falls short of the true depth of Judaism. When we don’t engage regularly, we might find ourselves feeling like ‘strangers in our own home’ unfamiliar with the prayer book, the language, or the customs.

But something extraordinary happens when we bring Torah study into our lives and start growing in Jewish knowledge. With each step, Judaism begins to feel more natural to us. We become more at ease in Jewish spaces, more fluent in the rhythms of Jewish living, and we uncover our innate ‘natural’ connection to our heritage.

I have personally watched this happen to tens of people.

Whether it’s five minutes a day or an hour a week, let’s commit to growing in Torah,  in person or on your phone, and watch it transform us into the 'naturals' we were always meant to be.

What’s In It For Me?

 

When asked for a favor, do you hear a voice in your head asking, “What’s in it for me?”

If so, you’re not alone. For most of us, this reaction is entirely normal. That little voice, the voice of our natural or ‘animal soul’, often speaks first and loudest, prioritizing self-interest. Yes, we also possess a G-dly soul capable of true selflessness, but it takes conscious effort to tune into it.

This internal struggle may be human nature, yet our forefather Abraham demonstrated a level of selflessness that transcended human nature. When G-d asked Abraham to bring his son Isaac as a sacrifice, he didn’t hesitate. Despite the unimaginable difficulty of the request, he advanced without question to fulfill G-d’s wish. Of course, G-d ultimately stopped him, declaring that through this test, Abraham’s previous acts of devotion were now fully proven to be pure and selfless.

What made this moment so uniquely powerful? Unlike other tests of faith, the Binding of Isaac demanded 100% altruism. There was absolutely no personal gain, nothing ‘in it’ for Abraham. In fact, it seemed to contradict everything he stood for, jeopardizing his entire life’s mission to spread G-dliness and kindness in the world. And yet, Abraham’s unwavering commitment to G-d exemplified pure, unadulterated selflessness.

Through this act, Abraham endowed each of us, his descendants, with the ability to transcend self-interest and be there for others, expecting nothing in return. His legacy empowers us to align with our G-dly soul, to genuinely understand and feel another person’s pain, and to act with complete altruism, no strings attached.

When we live our daily lives more in touch with our soul, we unlock this capacity for selflessness, making the world a kinder and more compassionate place.

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