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What comes first: Commitment or capability?

Friday, April 17, 2026 - 5:30 PM

When we think about what makes a relationship work, we tend to point to compatibility, chemistry, or shared interests. But real life points to something deeper. The couples who last are not just the ones who “fit” well, but the ones who decide to stay. They approach marriage not as something they fall into, but as something they commit to. And that commitment itself creates strength, stability, and resilience. (Of course, every situation is different, and there are times when a relationship cannot or should not continue.)

That same idea appears in this week’s Torah portion in a surprising way. When it comes to the offering of the leper, one person can bring a sacrifice on behalf of another. Even someone of lesser means can step in for someone of greater means. Yet the Torah requires that the offering match the higher standard. It is not scaled down to fit the one bringing it.

Why obligate someone to bring something that seems beyond them?

Because commitment itself is transformative. When a person steps into a higher standard, when they take on something greater than what feels comfortable, something begins to shift. The commitment expands their capacity. It opens up new strengths and new possibilities that simply were not there before.

The Rebbe would often share a story of the Previous Rebbe, who once asked someone to underwrite a project that was far beyond his means. It seemed completely unrealistic. But the man accepted the commitment. And once he did, new channels opened, in ways he could never have anticipated, and he was ultimately able to fulfill it.

There is a powerful lesson here. So often we hesitate to step forward and commit, whether in a relationship, a new opportunity, a meaningful responsibility, or even to take on a new Mitzvah or Jewish observance, because we are not sure we are capable. But in truth, it often works the other way around. Capability follows commitment.

When we choose to commit, we grow into it. We become the kind of person who can carry what once felt beyond us.

So maybe the next step is not to wait until we feel ready. Maybe it is to make the commitment, open the door, and trust that G-d will give us the ability to rise to it.

What’s your one non-negotiable?

Friday, April 10, 2026 - 4:22 PM

We are coming off an uplifting Passover. I hope yours was filled with family, friends, tradition, and inspiration.

The question is, how do we take it with us into the days, weeks, and months ahead?

I am often moved, and sometimes pleasantly surprised, by conversations with people in our community who share how they hold onto one consistent Jewish practice, even if they would not identify as “religious.” One woman told me that every Friday, no matter what, she lights Shabbat candles and calls her boys over for a quiet moment of prayer together. Another shared that he never starts his day without putting on Tefillin. And another holds onto an aspect of keeping Kosher, come what may.

There is something deeply powerful about that one non-negotiable point of connection.

This week, the Torah discusses what makes produce susceptible to ritual impurity. As long as it remains even slightly attached to the ground, it cannot become impure. Only once it is fully detached does that vulnerability begin.

There is a profound message here. As long as we remain connected to our source, even in a small but real and consistent way, that connection preserves us. It keeps us spiritually alive and grounded in who we are.

So if there is one Mitzvah, one practice, one moment of connection that you hold onto, hold onto it tightly. It matters more than you may think. Over time, that one point of connection has a way of growing, naturally expanding into other areas of life.

You do not need to take on everything at once. Just stay connected. From that connection, small as it may seem, vitality flows into everything else. This is how the inspiration of Passover lives on, carried into the days ahead and into the summer months, becoming part of our daily rhythm.