When we help someone in need, it’s not just about what we give, it’s about how we give. Judaism teaches that providing for the needy must be done with sensitivity, ensuring that the recipient’s dignity remains intact. A kind act that embarrasses or diminishes another person is incomplete.
This idea is beautifully illustrated in the Torah’s description of the sacrifices brought to the Temple. A wealthy person would offer a large animal, while a poor person would bring a small bird. Interestingly, the Torah instructs that when the bird is placed on the altar, its feathers should remain, even though burning feathers produce an unpleasant odor.
Why permit something that creates a foul smell, when sacrifices are meant to be a “pleasing aroma” before God?
Because without its feathers, the bird would look even smaller and more meager. By keeping them on, the poor person’s offering appears more substantial, preserving their dignity.
This Wednesday, Jews around the world will mark the birthdate of the Lubavitcher Rebbe. In the weeks leading up to Passover, the Rebbe would constantly remind us to prioritize ensuring that every Jew has what they need to celebrate the holiday with comfort and dignity.
Let’s heed his call and make sure that those around us have what they need, not just materially, but emotionally as well. Whether it’s helping someone with Passover essentials or extending a warm invitation to a Seder, let’s give in a way that uplifts them.
By bringing joy to those in need, we enhance our own joy and that is the true “pleasing aroma” before God.